“Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt. So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”

Everyone who is a part of the Community of Grace is a servant in need of the same grace that God has given to the rest of us. We are all the same. Choose your words wisely, offer love and care first and foremost, and remember that grace is the fuel that burns in the heart of the recovered soul. 

"For who sees anything different in you? What do you have that you did not receive? If then you received it, why do you boast as if you did not receive it?" | "The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice." | "Cease to hear instruction, my son, and you will stray from the words of knowledge."

At the end of the day, we all want long term healing from sexual addiction. Scripture is clear that it requires a devotion to continued pursuit of God's truth. Once we say we have it all figured out, we can be confident that we do not. Instead, we should appreciate the truth that we have received from mentors and teachers, and devote ourselves to the constant regeneration of the Holy Spirit through the words of the rest of the members of the community. If you are going to boast, boast in the Lord, who has saved you and given you the chance to know truth through the vehicles of your fellow servants in Christ. 

"Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure." | "Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent."

One of the great advantages of this kind of a community is the ability to share without fearing judgement or always receiving correction. The act of speaking up is scary, and sometimes allows room for inaccurate theology, brazen emotions, heavily opinionated speak and the list goes on. As a member of this community, we ask you to spread grace by having open arms for this kind of expression in our community. We also ask that you would speak with as much raw honesty, seasoned with salt (grace), as you can when you share as well. Working out our salvation is a messy process. Here, we invite the mess and celebrate when God does amazing work through His Spirit. 

And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” | "Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor."

Everyone in our community has a unique testimony and deserves the respect of a brother in Christ. Do not despise a lack of understanding, but lift each other up in the Lord and honor the blood sweat and tears required to fight our way out of sexual addiction. Remember, a house divided against itself cannot stand. 

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." | "But take care that this right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak."

Sharing here will be under the scrutiny of Warfare of Grace. It is our policy that honesty is of the highest value, and people should be allowed to speak freely about their own issues, even if that brushes up against relatively explicit content.

Because this is a community surrounding the topic of sexual addiction, we encourage you to share descriptions about thoughts and ideas, but not about specific behaviors. We do not consider it morally appropriate to describe the experience or mode of acting out in a way that will feed the sexual desires of others. For example, one might share that their bed is unsafe because they act out there every night or that they are tempted by homosexual pornography, but they should not describe the sex acts in the porn they were watching or detail the behaviors that occurred in bed. Those are generally unnecessary details. Where those details are relevant, they should not be shared in a community like this but with a Warfare of Grace coach. We know that this may seem like a fine line, and that's true, but as you grow in the community the understanding will become clearer and clearer. As a general rule, if you are unsure about what you are sharing, chat with a coach about it first!

Finally, if you ever see content that is particularly triggering for you due to it's explicit nature, please bring that to the attention of the Warfare of Grace staff so that we can deal with it directly. There is no need for you to engage beyond letting us know and we will have conversation with any parties necessary to grow and develop our community instead of dividing it.

Never share content that may have legal ramifications. This forum is not designed for receiving that kind of material. 

"Argue your case with your neighbor himself, and do not reveal another's secret, lest he who hears you bring shame upon you, and your ill repute have no end." | "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler."

Members if the community must recognize that the Community of Grace is a public forum. While confidentiality is highly valued, expected, and encouraged, it cannot be guaranteed. That being said, we implore you to be greatly sensitive with how your share or speak about other people's stories. Do not share those stories with those who are not in our group, and maintain 

Never share content that may have legal ramifications. This forum is not designed for posting that kind of material. 

"On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require."

One of the most problematic breaches of confidentiality is when someone's personal information is shared without their consent. For this reason, we have a blanket rule against sharing anyone's information beside your own. Everyone in the community has the right to reveal their own information. Never share someone else's personal information.

Implicit in this rule is also the need to recognize that not everyone is in the same place in their healing journey. Some men will have no trouble opening up about their personal lives, and some will refuse to do so at any point. For the community to stay safe, we leave it up to the individual to decide. 

"Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother." | "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God."

Posting sexually explicit content breaks the good will of our community and will not be tolerated. While we are ready to receive men who struggle with the issue of sexually inappropriate behaviors, we recognize and stand firmly under the conviction that the safety of the community must come first. No one will be allowed to hijack the group for their own desires.  We are confident that those who believe in the grace of Jesus Christ, will have no problem with this condition. 

Don't forget, you struggle with this too. Just because something doesn't bother you doesn't mean that it won't severely harm another member of our community. 

"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." | "But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth."

Warfare of Grace reserves the right to make decisions about what does and does not constitute harassment in our community. While some forms may seem harmless to come, we recognize that harassment can depend both on the person committing the behavior and the person receiving it and their perception. We are dedicated to graciously listening to all sides, but in the end, harassment will not be tolerated in the community.  

Harassment can include:

• Knowingly breaking personal boundaries
• Knowingly breaking Warfare of Grace boundaries
• Repeated contact after a request for privacy or no contact has been made
• Trolling behavior in response to other member's posts
• Repeated advice giving that is not asked for 
• Repeated unhelpful presentations of the Gospel or other communications that engender shame